Does your life feel stuck?
What you tell yourself determines your current life
Its just a story you are stuck believing in
If it’s a good story- keep it
If it’s a fugly story- its time to change it
It’s only a problem because you believe it is
But Sue, “How do I change my story?
I’m so glad you asked
You are living by a script you wrote about your past.
You wrote it, it’s not fact, it’s a story about facts.
The life you have today is a script you are choosing to focus on
Here’s a story…
A person is standing outside their home, and it burns to the ground
The facts: There’s a house and it burned to the ground
All 10 people on the curb would agree
Everything else about that situation is an individual script
Each person tells their own version what they think about it
The facts about it are over, it’s the long story that gets repeated
Whose story is right?
The only thing that matters is how the story effects their life going forward.
For some the story will fade away, it holds little importance in their life
For the owner of the home the story is massive and will go thru various scripts.
It settles into a final cut- that script is repeated like it’s a fact
Except it’s not- its just the version they are choosing to believe about it
The person can’t go back and make the fire not happen. IT HAPPENED- it’s over
But the story they believe to be the only truth lives on repeat.
If the story is negatively focused
It will create a negative outcome
Either way, negative or positive it shapes your life
It’s alright to have a tragedy like that and be sad, hurt, worried, and confused for a bit.
It’s not OK to wallow in that story forever.
The solution to all problems…
Starts with changing the story.
You have no ability to change people, places, or things.
They are totally out of your control
You CAN control your story about what happened.
In order to do that,
You must first change the way you tell the story
You really CAN be, have, & live a better life
You have everything you need right now
It’s so simple
Your life IS built by the stories you’ve made up
It’s the foundation for your belief system
Stories are not real- they are words that cause you to feel a certain way
What happened is fact
What we tell ourselves (the story) is always optional.
You can change your mind about every thought you have
Yes, things happened. We give them labels like good bad, horrific, incredible
All of those labels are just thoughts.
They are words we put into a story
They hold the power to cause our feelings
How you feel will determine what you focus on
What you focus on is what you get more of
You get to choose what you dwell on
IT IS NEVER the circumstance that creates a problem
IT is ALWAYS the story we choose to tell about it
You CAN re-think your story
That’s all you need to do
There’s a PROCESS
You can’t just say new words
You have to learn how to believe them
There will be CHALLENGES
You will want to fight for your old story
That story is like a really comfortable shoe you walk around it
That’s why you need a Mid-Way Life Coach
You are stuck mid-way
You have the problem
It’s not going away
You can’t solve it
You are stuck mid-way
You can’t go back, and you aren’t moving forward
We are not wired to want to change, it’s uncomfortable
It feels like hard work and gets uncomfortable
We just want things to be different
Without experiencing discomfort
Are you ready and willing to wake up and commit to a new story?
It’s so freeing to realize it doesn’t matter what’s already happened
It only matters what story you tell about it
Stop making your painful story feel so important
Your Midlife and Beyond Certified Life Coach
Show Up * Think Different * Kick Ass * Be All In